Going Steady – Guest Post


After Christmas, I got the sudden urge to reorganize places in my house.  This included my shelf of notebook binders, filled with sermon notes, Scripture lists, and discipleship helps.  One notebook was filled with chapels from the Christian School I attended in Canada.  One of the chapel notes was from Paula Hernando, the secretary of the school (you can read her relationship testimony in the previous post, titled “Steady as You Wait”). The following article, “Going Steady,” is Paula’s notes with my thoughts in italics.  Make the choice to go steady!


Most of the time, we use the term “going steady” as related to dating.  But have we ever considered what it would mean if we applied it to our relationship with Jesus? 

There are several words that follow along the thought of “steady.” Let’s look at a few of them:

“Steadfast” means “stable and steady.” “Stable” means “not likely to give way; enduring; not wavering in purpose; firmly established; mentally sound; resistant to physical and chemical change.” “Steady” means “constant; free from agitation; free from variation, interruption; dependable.”

I think we would all agree that “steadfast,” or “steady,” describes the kind of relationship we would want with anyone.  We don’t appreciate relationships that are fickle, every day different than the day before. We want commitment.

“Going steady” also denotes exclusiveness: we’re committed to one person.  It’s no different with Jesus.  He especially deserves steadfastness and steadiness.  He also requires it. Our walk with Him must be exclusive.

You shall have no other gods before me. (Exodus 20:3)

But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways. (James 1:6-8)

…by which also you are saved, if you hold fast that word which I preached to you—unless you believed in vain. (2 Corinthians 15:2)

Three ways to maintain steadiness:

  1. Steady seeking.

“Search” in the Greek means “following in close pursuit of a desired object.” If we are in a healthy relationship with someone, we consistently seek them.  We seek to know where they are so we can be with them.  We seek their interests, likes and dislikes, so we can get to know them better.  It should be the same with our relationship with Jesus. We are to consistently seek after His person and His desires.

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.  I will be found by you, says the Lord, and I will bring back your from your captivity; I will gather you from all the nations and from all the places where I have driven you, says the Lord, and I will bring you to the place from which I cause you to be carried away captive. (Jeremiah 29:11-14)

 2. Steady in knowing.

Wisdom comes from God and keeps us stable. It enables us to make right decisions, move forward confidently, and be successful in all we do.  It guides our lives to success instead of defeat.  However, if we neglect knowing His wisdom, we will flounder.  We will strive in our own understanding to do what we think is correct, but never successfully achieve God’s will for our lives.

 Wisdom and knowledge will be the stability of your times, and the strength of salvation;
The fear of the Lord is His treasure. (Isaiah 33:6)

Those who do wickedly against the covenant he shall corrupt with flattery; but the people who know their God shall be strong, and carry out great exploits. (Daniel 11:32)

  1. Steady in decision.

Regardless of what happens, there should be a conviction that we’ll be as on fire for God as we are now.  Decisions can take us away for where we want to be if they’re made wrong. Little decisions should equal big decisions for God.

Only your conduct be worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of your affairs, that you stand fast in one spirit, with one mind striving together for the faith of the gospel . . . (Philippians 1:27)

You therefore, beloved, since you know this beforehand, beware lest you also fall from your own steadfastness, being led away with the error of the wicked . . . (2 Peter 3:17)

What does “going steady” with Jesus mean to us?  What would we change if we were to treat our relationship with Him with the same intensity that we treat our boyfriend?  Would we memorize His number so we can consistently communicate?  Would we read His letters to us, memorizing every Word?  Would we be unwavering in our commitment?  I pray we all choose to “go steady,” though we may be surrounded with a world of unsteadiness.


Paula Hernando is a fellow blogger and published author.  You can read more about her and her book at http://www.emptyhandstoopenarms.com.


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